Support Minah!

Teens who are having pre-marital sex in Malaysia are having a tough time, in my opinion. They should be given a tough time if it's before this pre-marital sex took place, if adequate sex education and advice was given. But if it's after, we should support them, mentally and physically. I like to preach, and do feel strongly about this.

The thing is that, most of the time society expects religions to guide everyone in life. I'm not practically religious, yet I turned out pretty fine.
We need to educate and reason with the younger generation, and make them understand the consequences. It's no use saying, Minah, don't let the boy touch you, otherwise your stomach will expand and you will be in big trouble. Using fear to get the message across doesn't always work as the consequences are not made clear to Minah. If I were Minah, I'd be wondering if the boy is a magician who makes my stomach expand and I would be insulted as it doesn't make any sense to me.

Imagine that Minah is now pregnant, despite her mother's futile attempt.
Firstly, if she's not married and is pregnant, she is subject to ridicule by society. Pointing fingers and blaming the poor thing after she's pregnant is not going to do her any good, as whatever that had to happen, has already happened. She needs support from her family and friends at the very least. Give Minah a chance to set things right, to mature and to give her child a better life. Imagine the emotional experience of giving birth and the related burden that comes with child-rearing.

And yet we wonder why most of them try wear baggy clothes and hide their pregnancy. And when the baby is due, some of them get rid of it in manners only known to them. Sigh.

I am glad that a body like OrphanCare is setting up booths for single mothers who cannot take care of their babies, to place their babies there, instead of killing them.
Point to be noted, this is to offer an alternative to desperate single mothers, rather than to encourage pre-marital sex. And the until sex education is implemented in schools, this seems like the best solution right now.

Currently, sex is not much of a taboo in Malaysia, at least in my opinion, and yet the government is taking its time at implementing sex education. Do they need help? Or a more blaring statistic at the number of babies being dumped by the despondent single mothers? Help everyone by teaching students what they're up for, before they leap into this apparent innocent moment of passion and indiscretion.

We need support from all parties to ensure single mothers are given a chance to make things right, and to prevent many more such cases if they are given sufficient sex education. Take care of our Minahs!